With Humility and Grace
Table Talk
Setting the Table
You are welcome here. Come just as you are, bringing whatever is on your heart today. Take a few moments and allow yourself to just be. Take a couple deep breaths, grab yourself a cup of coffee, light a candle, do something that brings you comfort. Allow yourself to be present in this moment.
Consider that there is humility found in both the giving and receiving of gratitude.
Gratitude begins in our hearts and then dovetails into behavior. It almost always makes you willing to be of service, which is where the joy resides… When you are aware of all that has been given you… it is hard not to be humbled, and pleased to give back.
― Anne Lamott
Galatians 5:13
Serve one another in love.
John 13:14-15
Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another's feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.
Food for Thought
When a new friend recently asked about my feelings when someone says to me, “Thank you for your service,” I replied, almost reflexively, “I’m indifferent.” It was an honest response, though it was also the first time I’d really paused to think about it. If you asked other veterans in my circle, you’d probably get a similar answer. For many of us, the phrase has become almost like a caricature—something we might even say to each other in jest or with a touch of sarcasm. Yet, I circled back to my friend and assured him that, in most cases, we do feel the sincerity behind those words, and we’re grateful for it.
There are times, however, when it feels like the statement is used as a formality, or even as a quick substitute for something else, like an apology for not offering a military discount. My friend was curious about how I typically respond, and I told him that my usual reply is simple: “thanks” or “I appreciate the support.” In my view, gratitude is best met with gratitude, and even a small acknowledgement is worth a warm response. It’s important to recognize that, as an all-volunteer force, we receive a level of public support and respect that previous generations of veterans didn’t always experience. Those who served 60 years ago, for instance, were often involuntarily drafted into conflicts that were, at times, deeply unpopular, and many came home to a hostile public reaction. Remembering this stark contrast has made me question my own indifference; perhaps it’s time to shift toward a more grateful attitude.
Reflecting on this, I’m reminded of the lesson in John 13:15, where Jesus sets a profound example of humility and service. After washing His disciples’ feet—a task seen as lowly and unworthy—he encouraged them to follow his lead in serving others. "I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you," Jesus says. His humility teaches us not only how to serve, but also how to receive others’ gratitude with grace. My wife often reminds me of this, saying, “Jesus came to be the Earthly example of how we should live, love, and serve others.” Her words encourage me to accept gratitude with the same humility with which it’s often given.
In my current role in the Marine Corps, I work closely with wounded, ill, and injured Marines as they transition back to civilian life. Many of these individuals continue to struggle with mental health, substance abuse, family issues, or the fallout of divorce. Sitting knee to knee with them over a cup of coffee, hearing their stories, sharing in their burdens, and supporting them through this challenging period is both humbling and deeply rewarding. But it’s also demanding, and, I’ll admit, there are times when I fail to thank them for their own service as often as I should. Whether or not they directly express gratitude to me, I’ve realized that I could do a better job of honoring their sacrifices.
This Veterans Day, and throughout this season of gratitude, I encourage everyone to take a moment to truly show their appreciation to those who have served. Expressing genuine gratitude isn’t just a kind gesture—it’s a powerful reminder of the value of service and sacrifice. In doing so, we also honor the example Jesus set for us, one of selflessness and service to others. And in turn, as veterans, it’s equally important for us to humbly accept and acknowledge this appreciation, recognizing it as part of the reciprocal nature of service. So let us all give thanks, and let us receive thanks, with humility and grace.
Instead of offering a generic “thank you,” take the time to write a heartfelt, personalized letter or note to someone who has served or sacrificed. Share specific examples of how their actions have impacted you or others, and express genuine gratitude for their service.
Create a simple yet meaningful gesture of service to honor a veteran or someone who has sacrificed for you in some way. Offer to serve them—whether through an act of kindness like cooking a meal, helping with a task, or simply spending quality time together.
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Blessing
Loving God,
Help us to show our gratitude with humility, following the example of Jesus in serving and honoring others. Teach us to receive thanks with grace and to recognize the value in both giving and receiving service. In this season of gratitude, may we reflect your love and humility in all that we do.
Amen.
A little Table Talk for your table...
How do you personally respond to expressions of gratitude?
What do you think it looks like to receive gratitude with humility and grace?
How can we cultivate a culture of mutual appreciation and support? List a few ways you think we, as individuals and as a community, can incorporate this mindset into our daily lives.
Try taking it to the Kids Table...
Ask your kiddos how they feel when someone says “thank you” for something they have done. Then ask how they think others feel when they say “you’re welcome.” Discuss how it feels to both give and receive thanks, and why it’s important to show gratitude with kindness.
Make cards together for someone who has served in the military, or for anyone they want to thank. Let your kiddos write or draw a message of appreciation, and talk about how saying “thank you” can make people feel good and recognized.
Share the story of Jesus washing His disciples' feet and ask, "How can we serve others in a humble way like Jesus did?" Have the children think of one small way they can serve a friend or family member this week, whether it’s helping with a chore, sharing something, or simply being kind.
Meet This week’s writer!
Justin Grubb is a proud North Carolina native. He studied criminology at Western Carolina University and earned his MBA from Lipscomb University. Justin recently celebrated twenty-one years in the United States Marine Corps, and he serves on active duty as a DISC with the Wounded Warrior Regiment, helping wounded Marines adjust to civilian life post-service. He currently lives in Nashville, TN with his wife, daughter and pup, Tux. When he isn't spending time with his family, he enjoys reading, playing basketball, and coaching Crossfit at the neighborhood gym.
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